making friends and keeping them (or social skills in general)
Keeping a car clean and mostly (not fully) scratch-free
You get into it thinking it’s a fun hobby and now it’s sunday night, you’re on the floor crying outside next to your car realizing you need another $100 to do any decent polish job, and that it’s fucking impossible without a garage
I exaggerated a bit but I swear it’s not far off
I want a fucking garage :-/
Continuing to give a shit as the entire system collapses.
Starting (anything) Executive function issues people unite!
Going to bed before midnight and actually sleeping
Warm white lightbulbs, anti blue coatings on glasses and settings in every device, and occasionally remembering to not drink caffeine past 4pm (even if you’re a ‘caffeine makes me tired’ person it still keeps your brain kicking and out of rem sleep) were the kickers that got me into a good sleep schedule
The second I had a pair of glasses with those night driving amber lenses I genuinely noticed my sleep being better, felt myself actually getting tired and would actually go to bed early.
The doomscrolling in bed didn’t help either
Flying an fpv quadcopter. Actually the whole hobby. Not talking DJI. Building, programming and inevitably fixing them. Flying them in acro mode is not easy. Come to think of it, line of sight is even harder.
Line of sight flying is something i can hardly comprehent. I’m not bad at it, most people are actually really impressed by it, but damn, every time i do it, i count on losing or crashing my drone and sweating my ass off the whole time.
what if it cuts your dick off by accident
Turning when you’re riding on a jetski and about to be in a head on collision.
Most people will panic and let off the gas to turn, but the jet ski isn’t going to be able to turn much unless you’re actually giving it some throttle.
Satisfying the borrow checker.
Playing guitar
Most things. People underestimate the labor, time, complexity, obstacles that most jobs involve. We are wildly optimistic.
Asking intelligent questions.
Explaining yourself
Playing the harmonica.
Your mouth cavity forms part of the instrument (like the body of an acoustic guitar) so you need to precisely control your lips, tongue, jaw, etc on top of the usual embouchure skills that you need for a wind instrument, while also being sure to only use the hole/holes you want. You get different notes when you blow and draw (suck), so you must control your breath so the note doesn’t squeak - unless you’re doing that on purpose, which lets you play notes outside the key of that particular harmonica. You also need to balance your in and out breaths so you don’t get too full or empty of air (a few notes have both in and out options to help with this).
I’m very bad at the harmonica.
Great oral exercise.
“unskilled” labor
Finding the will to get out of bed in the morning. For twenty years I’ve gone to work 40 or more hours a week and honestly I just can’t seem to find a care to do it anymore. I’m sure it’s tied to depression or not being happy in my life or some shit but really it just seems easier some days to say why not just end it and not stress about being late on rent or having some awkward conversation telling someone you were sick and you know you shouldnt be missing days but really the work is just not fulfilling so I have no drive to keep doing it.
It’s almost creepy, are you me? This is exactly how i would describe the shit i am like for about a year now.
Not quite, I’m the mirrored version you see when you look in the mirror, except I must say the mirror must be fogged because it says lady in your name, so you’d have to be squinting hard. My beard is a bit hard to mistake, lol. Hope you find some sort of spark in your life soon that starts to make things better, I really need to find a new line of work probably.
I get like this if I have a good weekend, trip or vacation. It’s supposedly supposed to make you feel better in life but for me the stress beforehand (if it’s a big trip) and the depression afterward almost make it easier to bury my head in work and not peak too far outside my little bubble.
