What I mean is, how do you deal with the logical conclusion that no one can ever truly be relied on and that you can always find yourself alone with no support?
Or do you disagree with this conclusion and think that some people can be relied on and that you can know that you won’t end up alone?
And if you are alone, how do you deal with the inherent human yearn for others when you know that you can never truly rely on them?
Edit: To clarify, I am talking about personal relationships and not about professional or paid help.
I am trying to tackle my urge to be reclusive by getting out, and doing old school activities, making an effort to smile or chat. I am not looking for anything formative really, but its a step towards making sure i don’t feel lonely.
I try not to care what others think (not in an obnoxious way)…it really helps.
As with anything else, we should care what others think to a certain point and filter out the crap.
I don’t care what terrible people think about me or what I do. Their opinion is trash if they are trash. People who have small interactions and react based on assumptions get dismissed as well.
But people I know who do understand context and strangers who are reacting to what is actually going on have thoughts that I do care about. I won’t treat their thoughts as absolutely correct, but will consider why they think that way.
So I do care about the opinion of the person who I had ilited contact with, but had good opinions about other things and will consider why they might think that I was wrong. I don’t care about the opinion of someone who always sees the worst in people, even if they have to make up a story in their head to do so. Whose opinion and what lead to it is important, and I have changed for the better because of it while also learning to not care about the assholes or misinformed.