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It helps having a list of predefined general questions memorized. Like: What are your hobbies? What do you like about them? Why?

You can skip the first few questions if you already know the answers. Like going straight to: "What is your favorite thing about football? Why? You have to train a bit to continue from there. To continue comming up with questions. Like: “Do you just like to watch football or do you also play it?”

But the hardest part is actually to start and ask first few questions.

How you start is not that important. Just that you do. For example you can start with: “Who is your favourite super hero? Why? What super powers would you chose for yourself? Why? Why not the…?”

Do not forget abot “why” follow up. Or they will often close conversation with a short answer.

Conversation can then continue in any direction. Do not force it in a direction you want it to go.

You can absolutely talk to absolute strangers.

There are two ways on how to not be a creep:

1. You start in a form of comments: Something happens, you comment it. More to yourself that to them. And if they respond you can continue.
2. You randomly catch them looking at you. It must be random. You should not stare under any circumstance. Then you smile. If they do not smile back. Stop. If they do, you can repeat that a few times. And if successful then you can approach them with a simple general question like “are you returning from work?”. (Note “Where are you heading?” Can be considered creepy and stalker like).

At any point you must be attentive and if they are uncomfortable immediately stop engaging.

But this is a bad way to make a friend. Those are people you should expect to never see them again. This is just a way to make someone’s day better. This is never meany to be anything more than a casual conversation with a stranger.

Learn how to be honestly invested into people you talk with:

• ask them meaningful questions about them.
• aks them open-ended questions.
• ask them sub-questions.
• find a topic they are really interested and sparks a joy in their eyes. And go deeper. Try to learn.
• ask why question. “Why do you like this the most?”

For kids I usually go with what is your favorite school subject? Why? What is the best part? Why?.. For grownups ask about their hobbies. Why do they like them? What is the best part?

This is the single most important advice. This is about them not you. And it forms deeper connections.

Extra: Simple smile can really make a strangers day.

But then you have to use their shitty non privacy friendly phone or still use two phones.

Strictly mathematically even the whole world is a subset of the whole world.

Scammers almost always install remote desktop app from play store. This is just anti competitiveness…

If America adopted the metric system the need for convertion would go away. So there is no need to be bilingual in this stuff… Use metric and that is it. But you cannot do that as a single person. Laws should be passed.

1. It is ok to have best friends of either genders.
2. What your boyfriend is describing is very common. Cheating is very common.

I have beautiful and nice female coworkers, my wife have beautiful and nice male clients. We both spend a lot of time with those people. The possibility of getting in love is high. That is we talk about some facts:

1. People do fall in love. Even people in happy relationships fall in love with other people. This is common. (Early stages of falling in love happened to me and to my wife before)
2. Relationships have its ups and downs.
3. The more time you spend with someone (friends, coworkers, neighbors,…) the more likely is to develop feelings for that person. Those feelings might be temporary. Those feeling can only happen in one of the friends.

So it is not hard to see how having a low point in a relationship might lead to growing romantic feelings to our close friends.

My parents were best friends. While neither were in a relationship at the time, my father developed feelings for my mom. Just recently my mom got aware that my father has been hiding his feeling for a year before he made a move. He did not want to destroy the relationship they had. He waited until he was sure the feeling became mutual.

This story describes nothing wrong. Just a way how people grow together and how beautiful relationships are often born.

Because of this reality me and my wife developed few rules:

1. We do not discuss unsolved relationship issues with anyone but ourselves.
2. We spend a lot of time working on our relationship.
3. If we start developing feelings for someone we talk about it. This stops the enchantment and some feelings are already gone. We decide on a strategy for those feelings to not grow further. Usually temporary mental distancing from that person is enough. And certainly we do not share those feelings with a person in question.

Openness, transparency and also having a strategy helps us maintain relationship with no jealousy and total trust.

That is great! Where can I access it? This would greatly help my wife with her work. :) She is on linux, will there be a Linux/flatpak/apt version?

I would go with an acronym. EURO federation. E - equality U - Union R - rights O - Oportunity

Or something like that.

So we do not lock ourselves geographically. So Canada, Australia and other countires can join us in any tier of cooperation. Bigger EU is stronger EU.

Have you checked? I have not.

I heard about some disturbing research on the internet. So this is probably fake, but I was not bothered enough to confirm it. It says when men on anonymous questionnaire chose the most attractive females with their age attached to the photos, they on average chose females aged 21yo.

However when in the same research they removed age labels the same men chose 15 year olds to be the most attractive.

Which is very disturbing if true. And I assume this to be true that there is a dark secret we men have if we are not civilized. And I think the evidence confirms this when you check powerful men with no moral compass - they do confirm it.

However this, while being very disturbing, also shows most of men have moral compass. Men do not act on this and are mostly discussed by that idea when knowing the age.

So I agree with youtube comments there might be a (repressed/subconscious/…) physical attraction to female bodies of lower age. But I do not agree with their conclusion. That it is in any way ok and normal to act on this. The mentioned research shows this exists but also that this is very not ok to act on or even admit this exists.

If anyone is bothered enough I would also like to know if this research is true. :)

How it that different from IPFS? ipfs.tech

Or even better Veilid?

I wanted to be a snowman. It did not work out. Now I am a lame ass CTO.

That last part seems rather unbelievable between good friends. Have you seen something like that happening to someone? I cant imagine this happening with my friends since I only have few but close friends.