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  • Broken glass or porcelain, but specifically the idea that splinter sized shards could get missed, end up in my fingers or toes, I could somehow completely miss that they did, and then they’d just randomly cause intense sharp pinpricks of pain randomly for the rest of my life.

    Like full on panic attack from a dropped glass breaking near me.

    Like, I know how to deal with it, but still. Just put on your shoes, some gloves, carefully sweep up what you can, vaccuum with something that doesn’t blast air everywhere, then wipe a damp paper towel over the area to get any stragglers. If I’m extra paranoid I’ll let it dry then sweep and vacuum again.

    I think it comes from some weird and intense growing pains I had like that growing up, plus repeated times in school I ended up getting nearly invisible stinging papercuts on my fingers.






  • When called out on this, OP made the following thread mischaracterizing artist signatures in images as advertising and trying to get a rule made on the comics community to force all users to remove attribution. https://lemmus.org/post/21226925

    In the comments they state that they refuse to consistently link the source, even though they are able to, until the rule they suggested is put into place: https://lemmus.org/comment/17161116

    Notably, this all exploded after that community’s mod suggested a “no bots” rule and created a “two posts per user per day” rule that OP is blatantly violating.


    OP is upset that they don’t get to use other peoples spaces for free exactly as they want to. They have a post in powertrippingbastards recently that amounts to this as well. Now they’re just continuing the tantrum elsewhere because they didn’t get the response they wanted.


    Beep, a suggestion: Make the space you want to see on lemmy. Create a comm and set the rules you want on it. You want all posts to have what you consider advertising stripped out? Go for it.

    “NonAdComics”, “BeepsMemes”, etc. The fediverse is still small enough to carve out your own space.





  • My experience is that they’re still around in lesser numbers. You just need to know where to look. Personally it seems to me like most have moved into videogames and game lore spaces. Pretty sure a lot of kids call them alternate reality games now. Half a dozen new ones come out from the slowly dying garry’s mod map community every year. Also other games have used these sorts of puzzles too, like noita, elite dangerous, and risk of rain 2 that had its most recent dlc page on steam initially drop with no fanfare and entirely ciphered. Really cool stuff. Due to the connection with games it also crosses over with cheap jumpscare horror stuff like slenderman and five nights at freddys, so a lot of people consider it juvenile now, like the incredibly obvious hidden text in this comment.


  • Great callout!

    I participate in the techtakes community on awful.systems, which is devoted to laughing at tech bro “takes”. HN posts and comments are almost too easy as targets for derision and are common topics for meta-discussion of the reprehensible opinions.

    I was just trying to have a light touch here. Start with the facts. We can talk about the literal cults spun off from it later.

    The site’s one of the clearest windows into the myriad and shockingly widespread ghoulish opinions that seem to fester in places that consider themselves important to the tech industry or attract people who think they are.

    I really should start keeping a tally on shit like “how many times have I seen eugenics suggested on HN this month”.


  • Mostly, escaping my mother and allowing me to begin to build healthy boundaries with her.

    I grew up with parents who are both near assuredly ADHD, my mother has severe narcisistic tendencies, and my father means well but was fairly absent (overworks himself and is forgetful of plans).

    They also had a ton of marital friction and issues that I ended up caught up in the middle of. I’m honestly shocked they didn’t divorce, but they do seem to finally work now as a couple.


    Anyway, benefits to me (mostly escaping trauma):

    Being able to choose how I spend my time, without my mother constantly trying to steer it to uses she considered “productive”, without constant judgement of my hobbies as somehow being some net negative against my future life prospects. I don’t have to justify every choice and action I make that doesn’t match up to my mother’s messed up idea of how my life should work or what she (incorrectly) thinks would make me more organized/responsible/whatever the fuck.

    I’ve been able to actually take the time and figure out what works for me instead of hopping on whatever harebrained fad idea my mother has that has been further filtered through her own issues and her family’s massive anxiety about appearances.

    I’m allowed to give up on a course of action when I realize it’s a lost cause, rather than beat my head into paste and continue grinding my neck stump against the same wall.

    And I can’t overstate the weight off my shoulder from just not having to deal with the constant judgement, and the constant comparison to people in my age range who she hardly fucking knew but somehow felt qualified to tell me precisely how they were successful (she was wrong most of the time because I already knew these kids better than her, but that didn’t stop her).

    I have a space that’s mine. I don’t need to worry about what I leave out, or how it appears to people who don’t have to live in it. I don’t need to worry about someone kicking in a door because I dared not to engage in a screaming match.

    While I can’t help myself from memorizing footfalls, I don’t have to arrange myself and my space when I hear someone upset, bracing for impact.


    Non-trauma benefits: I can do whatever I want with my space, and unless I invite someone into it I’m the only one effected or judging it.

    I can organize in ways that make sense for me.

    I can invite people over for any reason at all, even just to hang out with no real plan or goal.

    If I can’t find something, or something is messy, I can’t (correctly or not) hide behind it being someone else’s fault or problem.

    If I decide I don’t like something, I can change it.

    I can leave a project half done and not have to move it out of the way so it won’t get messed with.