A big fear of having children, while simultaneously knowing I want at least one child for sure. I know that there is never a correct time, but man, my job situation is shitty with no end in sight. A child brings the possibility that I might have to work minimum wage in the future, because academia might spit me out. The free market seems to auto-reject me since two years and unfortunately my qualification is kind of a nieche. I fear the dependance on others a child brings and the lingering disappointment in a lot of people. The friedships it will cost, because some are hardcore childfree or there is only so much time in a day. I fear the criticism it will bring and the sleepless nights. I fear all of this and more but still want it so bad it kind of tears me appart sometimes.

What do you mean by producing, content? Comments? Likes? Some users maybe never produce own content, some might even not comment. And with the limited content it is sometimes even hard to like many videos. I would prefer activity for orientation, if possible. Three months or more as inactive would be a reason for deactivation, in my eyes. Maybe send some form of warning beforehand, with a reasonable timeframe for them to react. But I really do not have a clue which metrics are available to you.

I can only speak for me, but the older I got, character became more important for me in terms of dating. Somehow you realise that you spend a lot of time with a partner and you will not have a good time if He/she is only good looking but not a nice person at all.