My dad recently passed away suddenly but there’s a saying he used to tell me that has helped me through the grieving process. He used to always say that life has yin and yang. That we couldn’t feel rested if we didn’t know exhaustion, fullness without hunger, or happiness without sorrow.

Having this perspective has helped me accept that all of the joy, laughter, and warmth he brought me has to be balanced with the sadness I feel when he’s gone.

You don’t have to use the exact same analogy but I think the general philosophy is helpful.

So jealous you get to watch the Cunk On ___ docuseries for the first time. They’re all super funny.

My father passed away recently and his wife who he was separated from did not want to relinquish her rights to plan his funeral. Up until last Friday she had been respectful of what my brother and I, my dad’s only biological children, have asked for.

However, on Friday she published the viewing and funeral dates on Facebook without consulting us. They’re on days my brother can’t come home since he’s working out of the country. When my family asked to change it, she said she had formed a committee for the funeral made of my dad’s close friends and to ask them to change it. Of course, she only did this to avoid responsibility for the date.

When I called one of the men on the committee and gave him a list of reasons to change the date, he basically said the plans were set and the notifications sent out. I replied that nothing was set in stone and that we could re-upload the obit. I further explained that my brother and I were hurt we were left out of the funeral planning and that it didn’t have to be this difficult since there was availability a few weeks after the selected dates. His response was, “It’s not. Just go with the flow”.

I was so stunned I didn’t know how to respond. I couldn’t believe the audacity from him saying this was not a difficult situation and for us to just accept their decisions. In the end, I told him that it was hard enough dealing with my dad’s death without all this added stress of being left out. I didn’t want to be overly rude since they could easily change their minds and cremate my dad without telling us anything.

TLDR: Brother and I were left out of the funeral planning for our father and when I asked to change the date for my brother to be able to attend, I was told to “Just go with the flow”

The GTA series might be a good example. All of the protagonists of the games commit exceedingly worse crimes as the game progresses but they’re made to be sympathetic since they just want success in a world with not much other opportunities.

Games with karma systems may work as well if the bad option isn’t overtly evil. I’m thinking games like Dishonored, Fable 3, Undertale, or any Bethesda game.

Anti-hero protagonists like Kratos from God of War, Arthur Morgan from Red Dead 2, and V from Cyberpunk could also somewhat fit the bill.

Edit: just watched an Outside Xbox video that summarizes a few games with just this premise.

I checked out the article but I’m not sure I could qualify by law to retrieve his data. Since he’s still legally married, my stepmom is the next of kin and is the one who could request the data.

This has been causing tons of problems since she’s been planning the funeral and doing things the family doesn’t approve of (like setting the date before my brother who’s out of the country could get home).

Thanks for the detailed reply though. Seems like my best chance is to appeal to my stepbrother.

Unfortunately I don’t have his icloud password. I know he has it saved on a note on his phone but by now I think his wife must have changed it.

I had access to the phone for a bit but when I tried to back up the photos, it asked for the icloud password. I entered what was on the notepad and it asked for facial ID. I’m guessing she was notified that someone (me) was trying to log into his icloud and so she marked it as lost. At this point, it seems my only hope is to try to appeal to my stepbro who I (thought I) had an ok relationship with to see if he can mark the phone as not lost. Because I’m sure it’s him who is doing everything since my stepmom is not tech saavy.

Thanks! That did work. Just wish the bug wouldn’t happen at all but it’s nice to have a quick fix without losing my place

Lights Out is an oldie but a goodie horror short. Could do without

at the end though.

Curve is another really good short that builds a sense dread and hopelessness. No cheap jumpscares, overused tropes (looking at you overly exaggerated smiles), or complicated lore. Just good old fashion universal horror.

The reason I bring up my phone’s age is to try to explain a likely reason why I haven’t experienced any bugs, at least none to my knowledge. Running the Samsung S20. Love my expandable storage and the battery still lasts decently long

Personally I’ve not experienced any problems but that’s likely because I’ve got an old phone with a old version of Android.

One of the tech YouTubers I like a lot did an in depth look at alternative launchers to Nova in this video.