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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • I’m sorry you’re going through that. My mom died over twenty years ago, when I was twelve (so I didn’t have any estate management responsibilities), and it’s sometimes difficult to deal with wanting to ask her advice or wanting to have a person whose first priority was me, irrespective of our relationship (I know not all mothers are like that, but mine was, and my much older sisters and their friends agree, so it’s not just kid-glasses. They also readily share unpleasant aspects of her personality, so it’s also not a wariness to speak ill of the dead).

    It does get easier, and you learn to depend on yourself, any siblings or old friends who remember her and other supportive friends who have been through similar situations.






  • but I’m a stickler for enthusiasm at all stages. I have standards about consent that should be normal for everyone, everywhere, always, and the fact that they aren’t is really fucked up.

    FTFY. It feels weird to thank you for something that really should be the norm, but it’s really nice to see it written out clearly for everyone to see.

    Before anyone starts complaining about their poor kinks that they just can’t help: I’m into CNC and TPE, and they are both incomparably better experiences for everyone involved when everyone continuously enthusiastically consents. You (may) just need to add a layer of obfuscation, depending on the scene, but that’s easily managed through the traffic light system or safe words/signs.


  • An anonymous internet allows Nazis to connect with each other without fear of social or legal consequences, thereby raising their confidence in/dedication to their ideology.

    It’s certainly not on a par, but the same thing happens with weird kinks- I have one I probably would have forgotten about if it weren’t something that I then found online. Instead, because I saw that it wasn’t just me, I had the confidence to tell partners about it. And it was only because I found queer online communities that I was able to explore my gender identity and sexuality in the same way.

    I absolutely support an open and anonymous internet, I just don’t know if there’s a way to stamp out bigotry and fascism while having one.

    Or rather, I know how to do it, I just don’t know if we can. The answer is absolute solidarity among non bigots against anonymous bigots: cancel your contracts with platforms that host fascists or bigots, tell them and everyone else why, and get others to do the same.

    Of course, at this point there are enough of them to have their own economy, so it’s not going to work now. This is more like the wound care to prevent a recurrence of the infection, instead of the infection treatment itself.