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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • I’m generally in favor of that except its timing is weird. Eugene to San Francisco should also be phase 1. It seems more interested in connecting a lot of places to somewhere first rather than making sure that when things connect they go where people want them to. It’s very clear phase 1 is entirely focused on making every region get a piece, which I get, but at the same time, the draw of HSR is connecting regions.

    Like, yeah Seattle-Portland would be nice, it would get used, but it’s a 3 hour drive. The killer feature that gets the PNW on the high speed rail is going to California.

    No coast to coast until phase 3, but phase 2 connects Denver to Albuquerque, Oklahoma City to Tulsa, and Toronto to Syracuse all disconnected to anything more significant at that time.




  • Because they’re the people who’ve spent their entire lives refusing to accept satiation. It’s no different from asking why people who weigh 400 lbs are so hungry all the time, after all surely they have more than enough fat reserves to see them through all but the most apocalyptic famines. But no, you don’t weigh that much without having completely destroyed your sense of satiation, and to maintain your current state you need to continue overconsuming. Furthermore to begin to scale back even a little is uncomfortable.










  • The moment I agreed to take my ex back. She’d given me an ultimatum, and I took my friend’s mom’s advice that the answer to any ultimatum should default to no. But more than that it was a demand for me to live a very different life than the one I’d realized I wanted. She wasn’t happy with that, and to be honest with myself I wasn’t happy with her, I’d needed her for shelter. She wanted me to be normal and acceptable, and I wanted a life full of passion, excitement, and freedom.

    We stayed together for a month after that. I’d agreed to get relationship counseling, but I only wanted it to help break up because I learned I don’t have a spine and I did love her and want what’s best for her. We didn’t last that long. I still hope she’s well even though last I heard she understandably hates me, though barring the apology I’ll never get I have no desire to forgive her for how she treated me in the breakup or in her rising discontent that led to the ultimatum.

    A few months later though I met my wife by living the life my ex wanted me to stop. She’d also been through a recent breakup along very similar lines.


  • Ope, yeah back in college I loved crossfading, but I had 3 experiences that ensured I never do it again. The first time I got shitfaced, did some bong rips, and got sick enough my friends had to check my eyes, but I was 22 and invincible, so I was miserable for the night and hung over for the following day and decided that apparently I could only overdo one at a time. A year or so later I was drinking heavily not to deal with life because personal tragedy, and so a few glasses of wine in I smoked some with a friend and same situation but two days of hangover. Then a year later, drinking out all night with the same friend at a party, and after I’ve sobered up quite a bit someone passes a joint around and after a single hit I’m vomiting all night with two days of hangover.

    I still miss the days of just passing around a joint while sipping a beer, but I’m not willing to risk that anymore.






  • I’m an extrovert and while some of what you’ve said has merit you’re really overstating it. I’ve had plenty of quiet people in my life who are more successful than me. Meanwhile my mom and I with our shared ability to chat with most people and keep talking for hours on end have faced plenty of struggles due to our shared difficulties with not doing that.

    Though I will concede you are right in that it’s really good at getting you laid.

    Also it’s just rude as hell to tell someone you hope your kid doesn’t turn out like them.