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Cake day: March 29th, 2025

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  • I said in OP that I’m doing this for my partners benefit. It is reasonable for people to tell me that I should ask my partners their preference if I am doing it for their benefit. Even if I didn’t say that, it is a reasonable suggestion to make, as most people care about their partner’s experience as well as their own.

    This really seems like some kind of ethical issue for you, and imo, if you really care that much, you should do some reflection on why it is such a big deal for you, since no one else here gives a shit






  • You were probably consistently training too hard.

    Basically, if you say you always felt like you were dying, you were almost certainly always engaging your anaerobic system. This is the kind of running that “feels like training”, because our physical culture has conditioned us to believe that all progress requires suffering. But this zone goes by the name “black hole training” for a reason - it beats you up enough that you can’t get the volume in for further aerobic adaptation, while simultaneously not sufficiently taxing your aerobic system to create sustainable gains. Runners who follow a scientific training approach spend 90% of their time below the anaerobic threshold, running at a comfortable conversational / nose breathing pace. If you can’t sustain running while nose breathing, then just walking, power walking, or using a walk-run protocol is preferred to simply trying to push through.

    Meanwhile, it is also possible that you would have benefitted from heavy lifting or sprint work. Efficient runners bounce, rather than slog. The rely more on muscle stiffness and tendon elasticity to propel them forward, instead of relying on muscle contraction. The stiffness and coordination required is created by having a solid core (so the snap doesn’t wiggle out) and exerting maximum force.





  • Partners I’ve had in the past have been fine with just trimmed, but have been put off by full bush when giving BJs. Unless you have some kind of kink about it, most people don’t find hair in the mouth enjoyable.

    PIV -> bush fine
    Normal BJ -> trimmed fine
    Really going to town on the balls and shaft -> clean shaven preferred

    And personally, I don’t enjoy the sight or feel of hair on my partners’ junk - clean shaved is definitely ideal for me personally. If they’re just trimmed, that’s okay - it makes it a little less sexy for me, but whatever. But if a partner just started never shaving at all, I would bring it up as a polite request, and then possibly stop getting physical with them. So since I have these preferences, I figure it is reasonable for me to put the effort in to match theirs




  • Thanks!

    As for my partner’s appreciation - I pretty frequently seek out new partners, so I like to make a good first impression. So even if a current partner doesn’t mind, I want to be able to be ready to make that good first impression whenever the opportunity presents itself.

    And yeah, lol, I actually did a core + push up + OHP workout yesterday. Goal is press BW and dead 2x BW! Mirror check today showed some okay ab and oblique pop despite being more than 5lbs over my goal weight




  • Yes. If they look feminine and their AGAB is female and I find them attractive and enjoyable to be around. Relevant to your question - if they check the first two boxes, then while intellectually I can appreciate that they see themselves as not fitting into the traditional feminine category, my dick will disregard this and say “THAT LADY. WANT FUCK.” And if this person wants to use they/them pronouns and checks all my other boxes, then their nonbinary status is essentially irrelivant to my descision making process.