Good that it’s decentralized and people can just move on to another provider, since this one is doing this, haha, right?

I don’t want people from Reddit here.

The fact that half of Twatter moved to Bluesky instead of Mastodon is a blessing.

ActivityPub is by design a data harvesting goldmine, the fact that it flies under the radar is the only saving grace.

I remember seeing an amazingly visualised website that was showing a result of an experiment that made people talk with strangers, and it had mostly positive result for most participants, even if they felt uncomfortable or scared at the beginning, and it had gopd results even if people with differenting opinions about i.e politics talked. Unfortunately I can’t seem to find it again.

I don’t know if it was part of the same research, but there was also a part where they had people talk to strangers on a bus ride, and it also went well in most cases.

Sp, talking to strangers is mostly recommended and should be mostly positive, at least statiatically speaking.

The chorus of XIII. Stoleti’s Elizabeth.

So this is the thing I’ll eventually end up in jail for bypassing. I coul’ve sworn it would be drugs.

Oh well.

When I was looking through the official marriage papers you submit when oficially requesting marriage, to see what I need to do if we would want to get married, that option simply wasn’t there in the checkboxes. And I asked for clarification, and apparently our laws don’t allow that combination, at least not as a part of the marriage process.

I haven’t really looked into it more, and a friend told me it’s very probable that we could just choose one of the available options and then submit a separate request to change my surename to add the missing one. It was also more than a year ago, and someone also told me that our marriage laws did go through a revision recently and it might be actually possible to choose both for both now. I’ll have to re-check again, but I’m certain that at least last year, it wasn’t possible.

Oh, one option I found a funny loophole was that we could marry, she’d take both, then divorce while keeping our new surenames (so she still has both), then marry again and I’d take both. I would end up with three surenames, mine twice (since she already has both, and I’m keeping mine and taking her current at the point of second marriage), but while that would be pretty funny, realistically it’s easier to just file for a surename change after wedding :D

As for the reason, who knows? But an ancient patriarchic custom is probably the reason, I’d guess that especially historically it’s not really common for a man to take his wife surename in general, and usually it’s just the bride either taking the man’s or keeping both.

She lived in an entirely different city across the country (Europe, so like two hours of train ride).

She saw me on Facebook, based on photos from a goth festival in our city, so I got a message on Messanger from a profile without a profile picture and no mutual friends. We talked for a bit, I was single at the time, and we eventually decided to meet. I had no idea how she looks like, and I kind of found this idea of a blind date funny - either it works, or I’ll get a good story out of it.

We decided to meet and go to a local goth scene hangout, and not only she was really pretty, she also brought two bottles of mead. We managed to drink both of them before even getting to the hangout, where it turned out that she was actually not only a classmate of my best friend (a long time ago), but also used to be part of the scene around 5 years ago (before I joined it), before she went no-contact and changed her nickname due to a relationship (that eventually turned out really terrible). So, she knew most of my friends.

That was 7 years ago. At the time she was living in a small flat, after just getting out of a 7 y.o terrible relationship that she couldn’t leave due to having a mortgage, but she managed to save enough on a minimal wage to leave when she found out he was cheating. Her grandma was living with her in her small flat, and she was really a terrible person, even had her aunt with the most entitled child move in, and they were even worse. Always arguing, screaming, being rude, and just acting like dicks. She let them live with her, just because they had nowhere to go, even though she was earning a minimal wage. Them saying that “If we don’t like it, we should move out”, or that “I shouldn’t argue, because I don’t live here”, while I was actually helping her with rent they weren’t doing anything for was insane.

I kept visiting her almost daily, spending time in the one small 5x5m room she had for herself, even though it was two hour train ride. During covid, I was mostly staying at her place, and since she loved animals (her mother worked at a zoo, before cancer got her), we discussed what we want to get, and pet racoon was high on the list. And when she said that we will get a racoon once we live together, I immediately found a flat in my city, and we moved in together around 5 years ago. We stole the ashes of her mother and went no-contact with the people living at her old flat. They can burn in hell.

Unfortunately, racoons are not easily legal to own, but we got a lot of different animals instead. She also helped me with starting to make our own goth events, DJ, and help local promoters, and now we’re responsible for more than half of goth events that happen in our city. She’s now earning more that I do (and I work in IT), and I’m really happy how did everything turned out. We have no idea how did the rest of her familly end up, but we don’t really care.

We are kind of planning a wedding, with only witnesses, but so far what’s stopping is that I can’t find my birth certificate, and that it looks like it’s not possible for both of us to have both surnames (the options are one of us keeps theirs, and the other get’s both, or we choose one only, and we both want to have both), so we kind of didn’t want to bother with it for a while.

The algorithm is probably made to maximize the time you spend on the platform, and is really good at it. (I mean, just look how good are ML algorithms on text -> picture, and add to it that the algorithm that does your info -> engagement has decades of data and training on billions of people).

My theory is that it has misaligned, because it turned out that radicalizing people into right-wing bullshit will glue them to the social network very effectively, so it just started to do that. It makes sense - once you start spewing right-wing bullshit, it will probably isolate you from your IRL friends, you will have an echo chamber on the social network, and it is made to sound like some kind of deep truth no one else knows.

You getting left-wing content might be simply because it would not be efficient to try to convert you, so the algorithm is trying something else that’s more effective on the (minority?) of people like you.

For me, it was about gear. I impulse bought a grill that can detect the width of meat, and can pretty reliably grill whatever I put there, assuming I choose the correct program. That made me buy a lot more steaks, since they were super easy to prepare.

Another one was getting an instant pot, and just randomly choosing recipes on the internet, mostly focusing on one-pot recipes. It’s so much easier when you don’t have to deal with standing there and guarding the stove, which I always found super boring and that was keeping me from cooking.

By not having exactly the correct ingredients, I’ve eventually discovered that most of cooking is just “stock, veggies, meat and seassoning”, maybe cream, and i can just do whatever (within reason, but you can usually guess what works together) and it probably works and tastes good.

On disadvantage my mostly random approach has is that I can make an amazingly good meal, but have no idea how I actually did that, only to never be able to make the same food again. I have a memory of a goldfish on ketamine and hate planning stuff, so my cooking is mostly random. Most of the time it tastes good, but I was never able to exactly repeat the same process twice, hah.

Remember that (I think) C++ race condition in RTG software, that killed people with something like 0.0001% probability and it was a huge deal and a reason to immediately retire the devices (or maybe just fix the bug, the point is that in medical, it’s super important to have a high success chance)?

I’m sure AI doing diagnosis will be able to get to a higher success chance, lol.

EDIT: From a quick search, it looks like mis-diagnosis chance in doctors is around 10%. I still don’t think AI can do better.

I highly recommend looking into Matrix Ansible Deploy, has an amazing documentation and actually works robustly. It will make the whole process of hosting it way easier, I only needed to change like 5 config values, give Ansible the SSH key for my server, and then basically run “just setup-all” from a Ansible docker.

It’s extremely easy, the Matrix ansible deploy project is very simple to use (with at least basic tech literacy), is very well documented and as far as I’ve seen in the past few years of using it do deploy and update my Matrix instance - it’s also very robust. I haven’t seen it fail a single time, which tends to be a problem with larger Docker/Ansible projects.

I’m paying 7$ a month for a cheap server on Hetzner, you also need a domain name, and the whole setup took like an hour.

The companies are wastly overestimating how much I care about seeing their slop content.

The hatered for forced logins, age verification or prompts like these has been slowly curing my internet addiction. I’m not signing up or accepting your bullshit.

Isn’t that, like, illegal?

From how I understand it, in Veilid everyone is both and entry, relay and an exit node - there’s no distinction. Because you have to have exit nodes - the communication has to go though somewhere, so the receiving server will always know the IP of the last node (the exit one). It just has to go through somewhere. The whole main point of TOR (and Veiled, which seems based on the same thing) is that since you go through three nodes, each node can tell where is the request coming from, and where to send it. So the server doesn’t know where did the request came from, but knows the IP of the exit node.

The issue is that if they bust someone for doing illegal shit, your IP may be investigated. They don’t know what communication came from you, but something may have, since just by using veiled, you become an exit node. Or I’m misunderstanding it, but that’s what I understood from the description.

So, if I get it right, it’s basically a TOR network where every user is both an entry node, exit node and middle nodes, so the more users you get, the more private it is.

However, wouldn’t this also mean that just by using any of the apps, you are basically running an exit node - and now have to deal with everything that makes running a TOR exit node really dangerous and can get you into serious trouble, swatted or even ending up in jail?

From a quick google search, jail sentences for people operating TOR exit nodes are not as common as I though, but it still can mean that you will have to explain at a court why was your computer trasmitting highly illegal data to someone they caught. And courts are expensive, they will take all of your electronics and it’s generally a really risky endeavor.

Now that I read this, I’m kinda glad that our company doesn’t do anything like that. But it’s just a small indie team porting games to consoles, so I guess what you’re mentioning is the bigger corp problem.

Now I want a Pepper Cannon. Would you recommend getting it, before I ruin my hype by looking up the price or what is actually is? :D