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Cake day: May 13th, 2025

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  • This is going to come off with a heavy “if life gives lemons” vibe, but over time it does work. Where I went to college, there was a day every year, I think during Fall or Spring, where everyone greeted everyone. Nobody made a big production about it, just a simple, “hi” or “what’s up.” Weird thing is it had a tendency to keep going beyond the day. Most people only did it on the day, but a surprising number of people kept doing it outside of that. Including me, eventually! I still make an effort to be nice to people, and I trace it back to that. No, it doesn’t magically make my day better, but it’s one nice thing that happened. Plus, over time it helps me see/appreciate even small positives, which helps keep me from getting too weighted down by the bad stuff.

    Don’t mean to trivialize the bad stuff in your life, OP. I do hope you’re able to manage it, and not let it beat you down. When I started college, I was a pretty negative person. While I wouldn’t call myself “sunny” all these years later, I do see a big difference in my general outlook compared to younger me.











  • It’s kind of a sliding scale. Add 10 or 20 years to both ages, and the gap becomes less of A Thing. As you both mature (yes, you keep maturing into and past your 30s), the gap between “adolescent” and “adult” gets smaller and smaller. It can actually happen pretty quickly depending on how “worldly” the people in question are. No offense but while the law might consider the 18-yo an adult, that’s still a kid. And before anyone asks, I wouldn’t have too many issues with a 20-25 yo person looking to date an 18-yo. Not zero issues, but waaay fewer than this situation.

    OP, if you’re just having fun go for it; but look out for yourself, and listen to words of caution. Plenty of 18-yo college freshmen have dated professors and come out just fine. At some point, the age gap will probably play a part in ending it, at least this time. There’s nothing saying you two don’t remain friends and return to a second relationship after you’ve experienced your wild 20s!





  • I was at a Bojangles earlier this year and they had an AI doing their drive thru. I was trying to order a meal, but didn’t want a drink. That confused the heck out of the AI. It kept trying to force a drink in me. Gave up and walked into the store. Guy behind the counter was smiling and said something like, “we can hear what you’re saying to it. Next time just pull around. We got you.”