I like that when someone creates a community, It usually just becomes a diary for them being able to post what they wanna see, I think we could all be nicer to each other in these trying times
Edit: damn y’all, don’t just say the bad thing you gotta say a good thing too
Unfortunately, hasty defederation has made this impossible. It’s too easy for people in a community to ask for defederation instead of confronting other people’s viewpoints. Not to mention that when very contentious topics are brought up and there are whole communities full of people who dedicate a lot of time to reading about and thinking about those topics, it can create a poor situation where that community suddenly starts an outburst of too many disagreeing viewpoints. Compound that with the extremely fractured state of information and media where people live in completely different realities. It gets to be too much, and it’s exceedingly difficult to have a civil conversation when the gulf between 2 communities is so large.
Wanna name some examples? Because right now, it just sounds like a tankie bemoaning people not wanting the toxic waste that is your ideology flooding into their instances – through .ml but especially through the noxious cesspit of insufferable losers that is Hexbear.
Edit: And I’d add that defederation is barely a part of this. The main problem is simply that Lemmy doesn’t have a lot of users, and so niche posts tend to receive minimal attention and effectively no discussion. I moderate a few niche-ish (but not that niche) communities on Lemmy.World (federated with .ml), and decent-enough posts I make there get effectively nothing.
While there are more significant causes, one such cause is that sane people don’t want a social media where at every other step is a tankie shitting their pants about how North Korea is based as hell and how dare you impugn Kim Jong Un’s name. I live with the tankies because I’d sooner quit social media than use Reddit again, but I never said I was sane. (Plenty also wouldn’t like all the ancom shit, but I’m close-ish ideologically, and I at least recognize they’re good people with good intentions and not just blatant, cowardly liars.)
Yeah you’re exactly right, as I said we live in completely different and irreconcilable realities. The fact of the matter is, given the option between sitting down with people like myself (Hexbear user) who have extremely different views, or just hitting the button that makes us all go away, the vast majority of people will just hit the button. It’s not really even a liberal thing, people behave that way regardless of ideology (although I think there’s something particular about how atomized and depersonalizing the current state of social media is that makes that kind of behavior more common).
But you see my point — you’re perfectly within your rights to think that everyone who’s a socialist/Marxist/whatever has gone too far or whatever, and not wish to interact with them. Replicate similar preferences across a whole community, though, and it ends up isolating them and creating the situation that the root comment of this thread is lamenting. We’re just little echo chambers siloed off from each other because the cognitive dissonance of experiencing each other’s versions of reality is too much.