Separate from privacy, on WhatsApp I regularly got messages by spam accounts. Not daily, but pretty close. Have never gotten a spam message on signal

It would be sad to see you go, your sense of humor has definitely made Lemmy more enjoyable lately. That said Lemmy isn’t worth it if your mental health would suffer. Do what’s best for you, and if that happens to be posting great shit posts then we will all benefit

A monster known for its use of Vicious Mockery

Being angry is a very easy to access motivated place. I suspect some of the nastier folks just aren’t good at motivating themselves otherwise

If they left it at OneDrive that would be one thing, but I don’t believe for a second that “We helped enable surveillance and AI targeting of drone strikes in a genocidal campaign” Microsoft is not more deeply involved than OneDrive

Makes me want to scream. Social security as is sucks. Current regime would use its reconstruction to wreak unimaginable cruelty on everyone they can, but the current system needs to go. We need to build systems outside state control to fill every need that can be denied to people based on access to the social security system. 🙃😡💀

I’ll take a stab at this. Being happy by yourself is about finding contentment and satisfaction with your life that doesn’t depend on external validation or reinforcement.

The first step is always going to be finding things you like and that motivate you. You have to take care to check in with yourself and decide whether the things you are doing are motivated by habit, by social desire, or by your own desire. The things you are looking for are the ones that fall in the last category. You’ll have to be honest with yourself to figure those things out.

Second step is going to be constructing goals from some of those desires. Not everything you like will be worth making goals from, but think about how you can make those things better and more fulfilling for you. Do you want to get better at whatever it is, as a skill? Do you want to share the product of crafts with others? Do you want to make it easier and more accessible for yourself?Figure out if any if these desires or activities can evolve to be more.

Third is making changes in your lifestyle to match. Reorient your life to your motivations. Figure out how to balance working towards your goals and indulging your whims. This is where the happiness and contentment on your own should be. If you are doing things you love regularly, and working towards goals that you want to achieve, that should bring a sense of fulfillment and contentment that doesn’t rely on other people to support it.

I agree with this sentiment, but I’m a socialist. I don’t think anyone should find themselves coerced into work they don’t want. Ideally, everyone is fed and cared for, and those who are fulfilled by sex work can pursue it without exploitation or stigma, and those who enjoy the end product can enjoy it without fearing the situation that produced it

Positive isn’t necessarily what I was going for. Mixed reviews from the creator side, I’ll say, but there is nothing wrong with exchanging sex or sexual services for other goods or money. Its just as vulnerable to exploitation and abuse as other industries, but the major difference is that the people working in the industry are looked down on and abused socially and legally by third parties.

The stigma around sex work keeps sex workers in dangerous situations where it is difficult to manage their clients safely, and allows bad actors to abuse their power over them (ask any sex worker about police interactions), putting them in more danger than is already inherent to the industry. Whorephobia sucks, and it feels like people just don’t want things to be better with people who choose sex work, or who find no other avenues open to them.

I have friends and love ones who have done survival sex work, there is nothing wrong doing sex work and I’m happy to fight people who say othrrwise

Yeah, as a developer if you ever catch yourself thinking “my software should lie to the user”, probably take a step back and reconsider.

Mostly just check the sidebar of any particular community before you post. There are upvotes/downvotes but no persistent karma. There are some communities and instances that are heavily moderated, try not to be offended if you catch a ban without ever participating its probably not personal. Also you can block users, communities, or entire instances, so you’ll have pretty good control of what you want your feed to look like if you familiarize yourself with those.

Nice to meet you, and hope you enjoy your time here